Positive Thinking: Polyanna Syndrome


Why do we have such a downer on Pollyanna? After all, she is just a little girl with a big dose of positive mental attitude. Instead of mocking, may we should learn something from her. I’m not saying we have to turn into Pollyanna, but when you think about it, positive thinking is the only sensible way forward. Our thinking creates our reality, so isn’t it just a bit daft to be creating our reality based on negative thinking? When we realise this, we understand we cannot afford the luxury of negative thinking.

As Einstein said, “we are boxed in by the boundary conditions of our thinking.” Mind management is essentially the key to life management, and we all have the power to choose what we think. It may take time and effort to break the habit of negative thinking, but that is just what it is, a habit. So the trick is to cultivate a new habit of looking for the positive. And the first step is to catch yourself when you are thinking negatively. It may shock you just how many of those 60,000 thoughts that run through your mind every day are of the negative variety. Perhaps when you catch yourself thinking negatively, you can turn it into a positive “but”. Whatever it is, look hard for something way to turn it around by seeing an advantage. Focus on the fact that your outer world reflects your inner world, so which way would you rather think? Create the habit of positive thinking.

A good tool for this is daily affirmations. These are sayings repeated on a daily basis to manifest a more positive reality. It is a way of harnessing the power of words for your benefit because your reality starts with a thought. Help the mind along a more positive path. Just remember the rule with affirmations is that they must be personal, present and positive, for example “today I achieve everything I want effortlessly” rather than “today I will not have any problems”. You can start with something simple like “I choose happiness” or “I create my own reality”. You can write them, say them, sing them, it’s up to you, but a minimum of six times a day is good.

As the saying goes, whether you tell yourself you can or tell yourself you can’t do something, you are right. So what have you got to lose by thinking positive?

©Frances Hall

Source by Frances Hall

Sprout a New Attitude in the Face of the Hardship


Without a doubt, things have changed in the United States even for those of us that thought we were employed in virtually untouchable career fields. The unemployment rate as of May 2011 nationally was at 9.1% per the Bureau of Labor Statistics. Even though there have been steady but slight decreases in the unemployment rate, it has not been significant enough to notice a dramatic upswing in new jobs being attained and or the housing crisis improving.

Yet there have been some positives in the midst of the storm, there have been more home-based small businesses sprouting up. Asides from the convenience and lessened overhead of having a home-based business therein lies the question of; Why? I have a theory. From the ashes of despair there comes the opportunity for people who already may be in a bad way financially to throw caution to the wind and exercise their many varied talents to earn income. While in a better economy this might seem as a spontaneous and detrimental thing to do in normal circumstances, these are different times.

To clarify, while it’s definitely devastating to lose ones home, job and financial standing, there are many people who are able to change their mind about their situation by thinking positively about how this too can become a blessing in disguise. I know numerous people who have established blogs, written articles, self published their books and or became consultants to assist others in achieving these tasks. Not to mention I’ve seen more people getting into green business ventures whether it be the solar industry or sustainable gardening.

When inquiring as to why someone may have decided to get into a new career or focus of work, the resounding response that I hear the most is, “Well, I have always wanted to do it, so why not, what else have I got to lose?” And surprisingly they are finding slow but steady success while doing it. Of course not everyone is going to become a NY Times bestselling author although even that’s within reach if you so choose to set your sights on that as a goal.

I am talking about merely having the courage and faith to put forth the effort to do that which you normally wouldn’t have while you were still sitting comfortably in that corporate high paying job you may have once held. In doing so, people have started to get to know each other better, traded services in lieu of payment projects and simply volunteered on some occasions in hopes it would have a return at a later time.

So the lesson is to enjoy the slow down while and if you can. The stress over a particular situation doesn’t necessarily change the situation and it only further helps to create more angst for you.

Instead focus on the positive if only for one minute, hour or day at a time. Start with something small, like having a meal and being thankful for it and for what it provides you. Once you’ve done something small, build on it and be thankful for that new thing, and so on until you find yourself starting to analyze how you can more positively change your life and outcome for the better, even in the face of unyielding adversity.

Source by Michelle Lee Dixon

Attitude Matters a Lot More Than Appearance


In our daily life, we usually face different kind of people. Few of them, we remember because of their attitude not their appearance. Although appearance matters a lot but it exists for a little bit and right attitude accelerate for eternity. In every stratum, it may be in your job, in your business, or in your professional life, attitude makes a great impression.

I remembered one of my school teachers, my history teacher. His teaching process was different. He did not even open the book, instead of that, he used to tell the story, historical story which was not in my syllabus, but you need to know to get into it, to realize the meaning of your reading. And amazingly, I remembered them all.

I did not forget his attitude, the way he taught me. I was impressed a lot. When I selected history as my main subject and later I was a history teacher in my professional life, I followed the same way as my teacher taught me. I forgot his face and even I forgot how he was but I did not forget his attitude.

Attitude matters a lot. It does not matter what type of job or which kind of work you are doing. If you generate the right attitude, you can have a better world not for you but for those who are following you.

I had the opportunity to meet a pediatrician for my child who was looking like an average people we use to meet in our daily life and nothing much impressive. But as a pediatrician he was remarkable. Every time I met this gentleman for my child, I surprised to see his kindness, his tolerance. It looked as if I was in front of my Almighty and He solved them all. Whenever I needed his helping hand, I got instantly and without any complain or any excuses. I remembered him not for his appearance but for his attitude.

Attitude could be build up by practice if you really really want to change your world.

Few steps have been discussed here under:

1. Positive mindset:

You need to be positive in your life. Everything, every moment you confronted, take positively. It teaches a lot. This is not an easy task. Actually we are very much familiar with negative attitude. From our childhood to our professional life we are accustomed with some words like “don’t do that, don’t do this, don’t go there, you can’t do this or that or similar to this. We grow up with these negative auras. And unquestionably it affects our attitude also.

2. Need to be engaged with some Social Work:

You need to be attached with some social work. The attitude ‘you expect nothing’ could help you to do anything liberally and your attitude is like that you can do anything without any helping hand. It molds your attitude a lot. Many deprived people are there in our surroundings who suffered a lot. They need our help. We often fight for some pointless, for some valueless matters in life. In return we lost many valuables like peace, time and mental calmness and not last but the least our earnest relationship.

3. Try to find out the qualities in you and the way out of its execution:

If we are in trouble we often looking for the flaws we have rather than our qualities we have. It makes us dependent all the time. We never ever boost our self esteem. Always find out the qualities you have, work on it and try to find out the ways to implement it. In this way you can handle situation.

4. Solution or problem is not your intention to look, your only goal is to reach the destination for which you are working for:

We often set our mind to solve the problem and gradually we are in trap in between ‘solution’ and ‘problem’. First of all we need to clear it that, our motto is not to solve the problem rather to reach the destination.

This is our life and we have every right to live life as we want. And it would be possible if and only if we have positive attitude.

Source by Koushik Banerjee

Taking A Positive Pursuit Toward Your Desires


Your pursuit towards your desires encourages you towards your own achievement. This drives you toward greater satisfaction in your life lays a new blueprint for more positive experiences.

  • Do you have a strategy for staying healthy?
  • For staying passionate?
  • For living some part of your dream every day?
  • What does that look like for you?
  • What could it look like if you let it?

We’re taught not to be too self-important, not to be conceited or think too highly of yourself. Women particularly are programmed to be hard on themselves and judgmental. We’re taught that how you look is more important than what you think. You’re taught to put the needs of others before our own.

Whatever you believe intellectually, it can be hard to overcome these stereotypes and break out into what is yours to do and feel good about it. To feel confident and purposeful. That said, it’s an ‘inside job’ one you must do yourself. When in pursuit towards your desires begin with valuing yourself, your contributions, your visions, your goals and your dreams.

Small gratifications in your pursuit towards your desires make up the bigger picture of satisfaction. To build your bold and courageous – and envisioned – future. Create a vision board, write it down, and/or take a picture and keep it in your wallet.

When you train a dog, you do it through a series of positive rewards. Eventually the dog learns that if it does this, it gets that. We use food and treats to create positive reinforcement.

Our mind works very much like the dog in this instance; repetition and positive reinforcement eventually create an outcome you desire. You are creating positive experiences; you’re ‘racking them up’ so you can move further and further in the pursuit of your desires toward success.

In your pursuit towards your desires, act by doing this consistently and repeatedly. This creates new neural pathways, trains and re-trains your brain to get more of you what you desire. Through remembering positive experiences, you develop strategies for driving toward greater satisfaction, for staying healthy and contributing to your being.

However, if in the pursuit of the one thing, you desire the most, you begin to deny yourself any fun or free time, and are feeling constantly insecure, unsuccessful, unimportant, and unsafe, you’re living your life in a state of lack, hoping one day that you will have an experience that you do want.

Does this mean that you should just work on your state and ignore what is driving you? Not at all!

Focus on what you want

We often need to clear away the dirt and see clearly and it’s often surprising how much easier it is to do when there is guidance. Really, when you stop and think about it, most things are easier when you have help, but you seem to think that when it comes to our personal changes – you should be able to do it alone. When you are in pursuit of your desires, yes, you can do it alone, but sometimes you lose perspective on yourself, having no ability to be objective.

This is like a step by step process of cleaning the window – think of it as the window to your soul, or your inner longings, and it can be a profound journey, possibly the most important one you’ll undergo. Once you start to see clearly – you will now have the ‘what’ identified in many areas of your life.

For some, it is like peeling back the layers of the onion, more and more revealing and less clutter as you peel back. For others, it is like cleaning the dirty window of their mental vision. Suddenly daylight streams in, illuminating all that was there, but lying dormant, unseen. For some the process is very quick, for other it’s slower. Either way, it’s always an exciting process that has a positive outcome.

Learn to discern what’s right for you – know or get clear on what you want and then get out of the way as this makes for a life that’s rewarding – a life of purpose, passion and clarity.

In your pursuit towards your desires, these are simple questions, but they can give you some real insight into where you resist and where you’re open. Often the ideas you have originating in our growing up years. Even if you’ve changed radically, you still hold the ideas and beliefs from your family of origin somewhere in our heart or head.

It’s good to occasionally shine a light onto your beliefs and see if they still serve you. It’s helpful to separate out what comes from your head and what comes from your heart.

Source by Reeny Carvotta Barron

How To Stay Positive To Enjoy Successful Manifestation


To Enjoy A Successful Manifestation, One Must Be Positive

Everyone is talking about manifestation, the law of attraction and the power of the universe. Many think they know how to use it, how to manifest, and benefit a lot from that knowledge. Many still struggle and keep wondering what are those successful people did to manifest anything they want and harness the power of the universe.

The key is everything is made of energy and vibration. You are what you vibrate. When you vibrate fear to the universe, the universe will send you more event to be feared. When you vibrate anger, you receive even more event to be angry at or people who are angry with you. On the other hand, when you vibrate happiness and positive thinking, you will receive more happiness and positivity in return.

So let’s learn how to become a positive person to ensure you don’t vibrate any negativities to the universe and start enjoying successful manifestations, and receive only the fabulous things in life.

How To Think Positive Even When In The Most Challenging Situation

1. Always smile

Smiling at yourself in the mirror helps to uplift your spirit quickly as well as reducing your stress. Please bear in mind that you need fewer muscles to smile than to frown.

2. Review all the blessings in your life

It is worthy to go through your diary, old happy photos, amusing VDO clips, or any past accomplishments. By revisiting those proud moments, happiness, and joy, you cannot hold on to the negativities and sadness. You will feel proud, confident and positive. Remember the feeling.

3. Reward yourself sometimes

Give yourself some compliments, flowers, or small rewards sometimes when you achieve something no matter how little it is. You can also reward yourself with some new opportunities to learn something new, to explore something new, or to meet new people. These little awards help you feel good about yourself. It is a way to show your appreciation to yourself. A positive attitude can never arise if you do not even feel good about yourself.

4. Stop whining!

Whining is a reflection of your negativities that have been put into words. It does no good to anyone. On the other hand while complaining you have unknowingly vibrated your negative energy to others and the universe. The law of attraction will work and attract the same energy to you. Moreover, you may get into the habit of whining. And when you do, the negativities will dwell in your constant mood which will attract people of the same kind to your life.

Many people complain to get what they want, the way they want it. There are many ways to get things done, have things we want, the way we want it by using other positive approaches like rewarding, complimenting, encouraging. These positive approaches may work slower but guarantee to draw back only positive energy to your circle.

5. Appreciation!

Learn how to be thankful for everything you have right now. It is always a good idea to thank other people for everything they do for you no matter how big or small. Admiring others and be thankful for others guard away negativities from your mind. On the contrary, these acts of appreciation and admiration vibrate positive energy to the universe and will draw back the same energy to you. Sincere admiration and heartfelt appreciation do not only make people who receive them feel happy but also make you realize your significance and presence.

6. Surround yourself with positive people

Talking to positive people help tuning our mood. We can absorb and study the way they think. Eventually, we will become positive too.

7. Stay away from negative people

Negative thought is contagious. When we hang out with negative people, we gradually absorb it. Sooner than we realize, we will find ourselves a negative person too.

8. Learn Dhamma, motivational quotes!

Reading good books of Dhamma or motivational and inspiring quotes from successful people help to stop us from going down the negative lane. Whenever negativity arises, grasp a book or read a motivational quote we like the most. It helps.

9. Think of others who have less and suffer more

Sometimes when we think about people who are less fortunate, people who are suffering more from the scarcity of necessities in life, we might as well appreciate our lives and what we have more. Moreover, many who suffered poverty and hardship have fought to rise above the water. Many have fought to rise above the crowd and become extremely successful. How could they make such a great achievement? Sometimes learning about other people’s success story could inspire us. Learn how they managed to lead their lives from zero to hero.

10. Help others and learn to forgive

Helping other people in every possible way you can would make you feel very positive about yourself. Forgiving people also uplifts your spirit. It makes you let go of negative feeling and make you feel good about yourself too.

11. Blessing others and wish them well

When we bless someone or wish someone well from the heart, we automatically create a positive feeling and kindness in our heart. When we wish, we vibrate favorable energy to the universe. And by that, you have sent the signal to the universe you want a blessing too.

12. Stop thinking negative

Practice meditation to be aware of any negative thought once it occurs. When you realize you have a negative thought, ask yourself whether what you think is real. Ask yourself whether those thoughts are healthy and make you feel happy. What could be gained from holding on to negativity? What could be gained from letting it go and be positive instead?

13. Be careful before asking yourself ‘why?’

The ‘Why’ is good when you need to find out the source of conflict or find a solution. However, asking ‘why’ to find fault or to create conflict and negativity is not healthy at all. Be aware before asking why. If it is for the good cause, do it. If not, better not asking ‘why?’. Try asking yourself a different question like “Why do we expect everything and everyone be as we expected?”, “Are we being self-centered?”, “Should we think less of what we want and start accepting things the way they are?”.

14. Exercise to uplift your mind

Your mind has an impact on your body and vice versa. So when you feel down, use your body to uplift your spirit. Exercise is a great way to light up your mood and generate healthy energy for your body and mind. Try running, jogging, yoga, or any exercises that would help you see your daily progress and experience some new achievements every day. When you are sad and discouraged, try some posture that would light up your mood quickly like smiling, look up the sky and take a deep breath. Your feeling will revert to positivity in no time.

15. Ask yourself some questions

One of the effective ways to tackle negativities is not to believe in those negative ideas. First, you need to be aware of the feeling. Second, find out what was the cause. Then use a series of questions that help to stop you from being negative which are:

  • Is it true?
  • Are there any proofs?
  • Can we prove it wrong?
  • Is it useful?
  • Would this thought make us happy?
  • What are the cons if we hold on to these ideas?
  • What the worse that could happen if we still hold on to these negativities?
  • Lastly, is it necessary that we believe in these negative ideas?

16. Meditation

Practice meditation for at least 15 minutes a day. You can try a peace meditation that helps you calm your mind and feel peaceful.

However, it is better to practice insight meditation. Insight meditation helps sharpen your mind and your awareness. You will be aware of any thoughts and feelings that come to mind quickly and be able to response more wisely. With awareness, you start vibrating only positive energy to the universe and sooner or later the universe will draw the same to you in kind.

17. Singing

Music can pull you out of your misery even for a short time. When singing, you have a chance to release your sorrow, troubles, and difficulties through the song. You feel a lot relieved after that. Music can help you feel good too.

18. Change your attitude

Given the same scenario, two people may have different opinions toward the situation. For example, when encountering difficulties, a positive person may see it as a challenge. The negative person may view it as an obstacle or a setback. So whenever facing troubles, try seeing them as a challenge, or an opportunity to develop your skill to overcome this problem.

19. Start your sentence with ‘At least’

When life has been unkind to you in any way, it is wise to look at the positive side of the situation by using ‘at least.’ For example, when you fail something, you could say to yourself ‘At least I have tried my best.’

When you lose your job, you can say to yourself ‘At least I still have good health and now the new opportunity to explore my potential.’ By looking at the positive aspect of any situations, you will see more opportunity in it and can gain more from the situation than staying negative.

Try practicing these secrets as often as you can until it becomes your habit. The law of attraction will start working on you. You will find your life changing in a positive way and start seeing how the universe is responding to your every wish like a miracle.

Source by Annie SS Chow

Attitude – Unleash The Winner In You


Everyone one wants to be successful in life. And why not? It is basic human instinct. But then why each one of us not successful? Why only select few of us are called successful people? It has been said only 20% people are successful in their life.

In a nutshell it is all about your attitude. Your attitude towards the life. If your attitude is positive in life you will be definitely a successful person. But then you should have the correct attitude & from where it will come?

I am giving you some basic guidelines to build or have positive attitude.

1. Dream big.

2. Do what you like.

3. Hard work has no choice.

4. Be truthful to yourself.

5. Never stop learning.

6. Follow your idols/role models.

7. Have fire in your belly.

8. Keep smiling.

You all can follow the above basic guidelines, it is very easy. Try it, slowly you will find the change in your own approach towards life, problems you face & the way in which you react these problems. The people around you will notice these changes. Along with the attitude your mind also starts changing. You will start enjoying the taste of success regularly in all the walks of your life. Eventually you will posses great virtue of Positive Attitude.

To be successful in life does not necessarily mean that you should have only materialistic success.It can be one of the criteria but it is not the real success. The real success is the peace of mind & the pleasure you derive by having peace of mind. Just think of Mother Terrace you will agree with me. The inner peace on her face is the ultimate success to me.

Now let us go all out to change your attitude, be successful & unleash the winner within you.

Source by Indian Gyani

Personal Appearance And Attitude


Personal appearance is usually defined by the way we groom and dress ourselves and is generally instrumental in other people forming opinions about us. It’s obvious therefore that care and attention should be given to how we look in order to make the best impression. In a working environment, there is often a dress code which is, in some cases, obligatory. This situation means the employee has little or no problem in following the code. However, to the ambitious, keen, dedicated person this dress code can present an ideal opportunity to become noticed. Smart, well fitting, well pressed clothing will make a huge difference to how one is judged. Certain industries and professions are quite inflexible concerning dress and insist on company uniforms being worn. Even then it’s possible to stand out from the crowd by giving attention to good grooming which will always result in a smart appearance.

If there are no restrictions on the type of clothes you wear at work it is generally easier to make a good impression with your choice of clothing. Care in deciding on the clothes you wear at work make a statement about you, so make the most of the opportunity. Dress sense is a very useful attribute to have, but not everyone possesses it. If you fall into that category follow the dress code used by your colleagues, but always endeavour to be that little bit smarter. This extra attention to detail helps to create a business like appearance.

A person’s attitude is extremely important as the wrong one can have a negative affect and spoil their chances of promotion. The wrong attitude can result in someone appearing to be offensive and truculent, giving a completely false impression. Attitude has a lot to do with confidence and can provide the wrong signals to other people. It’s not uncommon for a person’s attitude to affect their whole performance adversely in a work environment even though they may be good at their job. Recent research has analysed the reasons why certain managers are chosen for redundancy rather than their contemporaries. If you are aware of the main reasons thrown up by this research, obviously you will avoid making the same mistakes. For the benefit of the reader and as a matter of interest we will include them in this section as they refer to attitudes which must be avoided at all costs. It might not stop redundancy, but it will certainly help in preventing you from being a prime candidate.

So here are some of the reasons that are looked on as being unhelpful. (a) Failure to build a team (b) Arrogance (c) Unethical (d) Not trustworthy (e) Poor Administration (f) No strategic thinking (g) Over Managing (h) Tunnel Vision (i) Will not network (j) Inflexibility (k) Defensiveness

Once again we see the need for being practical, helpful, sympathetic and truthful plus being able to spot a problem and have the ability to deal with it. Personal attitude to the job counts for a great deal in how your performance is evaluated, so it is obviously beneficial to develop a positive, constructive and helpful attitude at work. Such an attitude will help you to cope with every singe aspect in the workplace and brings its own rewards and very often leads to promotion.

If you are fortunate enough to have a company car provided, should you look on it as a “perk” that goes with the job? In which case it probably isn’t looked after very well, is seldom washed, usually messy inside, has several minor faults, broken lenses, small scratches etc. Surely it is better to look on it as an expensive privilege which comes with the job, one that is worth looking after and of which to be proud? Again this attitude gives an excellent impression if you take care of company property. The same values apply to mobile phones, lap top computers, voice recorders and any other equipment the modern manager uses. Looking after these things as if they were your own and had been paid for by you can only result in positive comments about your attitude. One other place where you can make a good impression is in your office or workplace. We have all seen offices and workplaces where chaos reigns. Desks littered with paper, paper trays overflowing, newspapers and magazines spread around, empty coffee cups lying around, all give the wrong signals. So do filing cabinets with the tops loaded with files and plants in dire need of a drink of water. Clothes hung precariously on bits of furniture also look untidy. All these points paint a picture of inefficiency.

Just imagine how much better the impression if the desks are tidy and the filing cabinets and other furniture are used for the purpose for which they were meant. It doesn’t take long to tidy up, particularly if it is done regularly. Once again, if you do it often it becomes a habit. There is a saying in business that ‘A tidy desk shows a tidy mind’. Very true!

Most of the above will be seen to be common sense and obvious to most readers, but we make no apology for emphasising them. It is very often a lapse of common sense and neglecting the obvious which lead to bad practices, thus reflecting on the person concerned, so please, very carefully, consider these points. To conclude, remember that a positive appearance and a positive attitude result in a positive impression of you.

Source by Michael Russell

A New Year and a Positive New You


Certain times of the year can prompt us to review our lives. It may be a new year, an anniversary, a significant birthday that motivates us to pause awhile and reflect on where we are, on what we’ve done with our lives and what we’d like our next steps to be.

For some this could be a pleasurable few moments of reflection. We’ve achieved much of what we aimed for, have good relationships, lovely children, a successful career, good quality of life and we can smile, feeling proud and content.

But for others this reflection can result in an, ‘is this it?’ response, followed by perhaps feeling stuck in a rut, trapped by circumstances and unsure what next steps might be available. A variety of constraints and limitations, fear of rocking the boat and the potential impact of changes may immediately stop further thoughts. Daily life often means we have too much on with work, balancing our finances, the responsibilities of children and family as well as maybe religious concerns to prompt further investigation.

Postponing any changes for several years may seem to be the only possible course of action, but dedicating time to thoroughly considering our situation may raise other possibilities, rather than simply becoming resigned to saying, ‘I’ll wait till the children are older’, or suchlike.

A new year can bring a new you who assesses life by not only acknowledging what’s happening as well as what’s not happening and then reviews ways to improve the situation. Taking ownership, exploring possible steps, how to move on, where to start can be a valuable outcome from a break or retreat.

Everyday life rarely allows enough time to devote to serious ‘meaning of life’ considerations. There’s scarcely time to breathe, let alone explore different options, decide it’s time to leave an unsatisfactory relationship, walk away from a well-paying job or move to the countryside and become self-sufficient! Any musings will frequently be interrupted because the laundry basket needs attention, it’s time to log onto the laptop or go and collect the children.

So creating an opportunity and booking a few days away for a weekend break or retreat can be an important commitment to yourself. Setting aside time to grieve, recover from a breakup, heal after a change in circumstances or have some space after a hectic time or period of illness provides an interlude for reflection. Are we at a crossroads, what direction should we now head in? Finding answers to these questions can be a valuable investment of a few days on a retreat.

Simply providing yourself with an opportunity for reflection on possible changes and adjustments can help to improve your perspective and doesn’t automatically necessitate major upheaval. Afterwards you may find you return to your day-to-day life with a calmer, healthier attitude, feeling settled and in a better place. A retreat can offer space for you to positively readjust your viewpoint and become more flexible and tolerant. Gaining insights helps you feel better able to introduce minor changes that make life more pleasant for everyone.

An individual retreat often gives you time to dedicate to your physical and mental health and wellbeing, to focus on specific issues and concerns, perhaps through individual sessions which address nutrition, health and wellbeing. Personalised yoga, massage, fitness classes as well as counselling, hypnotherapy and coaching are all available.

A group retreat dedicates time to discussions and workshops, exploring with others ways to handle wider-reaching concerns, like stress, post-divorce, assertiveness, as each attendee is invited to share their coping strategies. It can be a positive start to discover that other people have similar problems in their lives.

Taking that first step is often the most significant decision of all. Determining that something needs to change and finding ways to implement some or even all can be a wonderful start to a great new year and a positive new you.

Source by Susan Leigh

A is For Attitude of Simple Living


“Ability is what you are capable of doing, motivation determines what you do, and attitude determines how well you do it.” –Lou Holtz

Does the idea of simple living bring forth the vision of a monastic cell, a country home or a one-room cabin on Walden Pond? Do you wonder how anyone could possibly think about simple living in the midst of trying to make ends meet? We all share in the hustle and bustle of daily living-earning money, spending money, inside chores, outside chores, time here and time there. So, you ask, “What is simple living?”

Janet Luhrs, author of “The Simple Living Guide,” informs us that simple living is about attitude – attitude towards money, time, energy, possessions, family, friends and a whole lot more.

Simple living is deciding what is important and what adds joy to your life. It is about letting go of non-essentials and those items that are just in the way. The attitude of simple living revitalizes you each day. Is this the year to change your attitude?

Here is a challenge for you. Decide what your core values are and begin to align your lifestyle accordingly. Deliberately choose how to spend your time, money and energy as you filter these needs through your values. Free yourself of debt. Let go of possessions that possess. Learn to say NO to unimportant things in order to have time to say YES to something better. Live mindfully!

The attitude of simple living is a choice. Each day it is your choice to add joy, fulfillment, passion, and love to your very existence while eliminating those things that drain time, money and energy. Ask yourself these questions:

– How complex have I allowed my life to become and is it worth the price I am paying?

– Do family and friends take a back seat while I spend time, money and energy trying to elevate my social status?

– Do I seek instant gratification which has the potential to increase credit card debt?

– Is my schedule a constant hassle, pulling me here and there without satisfaction or accomplishments?

– Am I always apologizing for my forgetfulness or failing to keep my word?

– Am I constantly searching for something to wear while clothes spill out of the closet?

– Are my closets, attic, basement and garage crowded with gadgets that were once important but no longer hold my interest?

– Have I fallen prey to renting a storage unit to handle my overflow of possessions?

– Is “getting organized” a New Year’s resolution year after year?

Stop for a moment and look around. What things have you chosen in the past that are no longer pertinent today? Is it time to eliminate them from your life? Strive to keep life simple by establishing a new protocol. Change your attitude. Focus on core values and choices will be easier.

The attitude of simple living comes from consciously making wise choices. As Henry David Thoreau once said, “Only that day dawns to which we are awake.” Once you wake up and align your attitude with your values, you will find a new sense of control. Attitude is everything!

Source by Judith Kirk

How to Stay Positive When You’re Unemployed


1) Keep a gratitude journal

When you’re faced with the fear of not being able to support yourself, or potentially your family, it’s easy to get caught up in looking at what you don’t have: you don’t have an income, you don’t have quality food, you can’t pay the bills and you’re drinking lemonade instead of champagne.

It’s entirely understandable, but lethal, to focus on what you are without. You’ll feel like a failure, which will prevent you from selling yourself as a winner on application forms and in interviews. You can spin this.

A wealth of psychological research shows that gratitude and happiness go hand in hand. Billionaire Oprah Winfrey has famously kept a gratitude journal since she was young. It’s a simple, but transformational concept.

At the end of every day, you write down what happened to make you thankful. Did somebody hold a door open for you? Was your bill a little less expensive than you anticipated? Did your child do something beautiful?

No matter how tough your day was, you can always find something to appreciate. In your bleakest moments, you might find yourself simply writing “I am grateful that my sister let me use her shower” or even “I am still alive.” It’s in those moments that you’ll truly understand the value of gratitude.

2) Treat it like it’s your job

You’re not unemployed. Your job is to get a job. It’s probably the worst pay you’ve ever had, but if you work hard you’ll be rewarded with skills in patience, persistence and, eventually, employment.

Imagine your new boss in a sleek suit, shaking your hand firmly and looking down at you. Would that boss be okay with you, pyjama-clad, strolling into the office at 11am, getting comfortable in front of the computer and opening YouTube?

Right now, you are your own boss. That means you have to get to the office at 9am every day. It means you have to work at polishing your CV, get advice from recruitment agencies, apply for jobs, maybe even practise your special skills or read up on how to improve your application forms and interview techniques.

Take an hour for your lunch, if you would do at work. Finish at the same time as you would do at work. Take weekends off.

This not only helps you get into a routine, but it stops you from feeling lazy and helps you keep track of how much effort you are putting into the job hunt.

3) Take breaks

I don’t just mean take fifteen minutes to have a cup of tea (although I don’t know what a cup of tea can’t cure). I mean take a mental break. When you’re faced with constant rejection and a lack of feedback, your motivation can plummet. You only have your own voice to listen to and, after a while, it might start saying “You can’t do it”, “You keep failing”, “You’re not as good as the other candidates” or worst of all “You’ll never get a job.”

What would your best friend say if they heard you talking about yourself like that? If they would say, “Your amazing because you keep trying” or “You’re getting closer to the goal with each day, each application form and each interview so don’t worry”, you’ve chosen a good friend. Catch yourself when you are mentally beating yourself up. Take a break. Breathe. Tell yourself exactly what that good friend would tell you. Then say it out loud.

Self-motivation is incredibly important for success. It’s the spark that will get that application started, that phone call made or that CV written.

4) Talk about it.

Bear in mind, ‘talk’ doesn’t mean ‘whine.’ Moping is okay in small, infrequent doses but it’s also something you just have to break through.

Share your experience with someone you trust. Have your friends or family members ever been unemployed? Ask them about it. How did they feel? What did they do to overcome it? Absorb all the advice you can and use it for yourself. You might (or might not) be surprised by how many people have been in a position similar to yours. This is not only the age of redundancy, but the age of people who feel freer to regularly change jobs and chase dream careers.

5) The Golden Rule: Never Give Up

You are not going to remain unemployed for ten years. It’s not going to happen unless you work exceptionally hard at being unemployed or have unresolved psychological or physical issues blocking your way.

It might take months, it might take longer than a year, it might not be your dream job, but you are inevitably going to be employed. You are going to be financially supported somehow during your unemployment whether that be by savings, a parent, the government, a spouse or friend. There is always a way for you to get help. It can be agonisingly difficult and you might learn lessons about your pride, but it can be done.

I recently met a successful, vibrantly happy man who has a history of unemployment. When he was homeless, he had every right to dwell on this pain and fear. Instead, he used the golden rule to weather him through his storm. He had been employed before and knew he could do it again. He had recovered from an addiction and, because of that, knew he was strong enough to recover from homelessness. He had many more years of life ahead so he could try again. And again. And again.

You’ll only get there if you try. Be gentle with yourself and never give up.

Source by Ruth C Ashton